My husband and I have been together for 38 years and we have established a lot of dysfunctional patterns over the years. As I change, I am no longer able to tolerate these patterns. I now have the ability to express myself in a way that is changing things for both of us in a very good way. I have more self-confidence and self-worth now, and he is growing, too. The process doesn’t always look pretty, but many things have been resolving between us and he is starting to feel that he is truly loved in a way that he hadn’t before.